Child #5
So I've been trying to avoid writing about specific people but to hell with that. There's no other way for me to express the source of my stress without discussing the person causing most of it. This is therapeutic for me as well so I'm going to be real honest and get it all out.
For the past four years my daughter has been a thorn in my side. Shes defiant, disrespectful loud and obnoxious and follows no rules set for her. This of course has caused horrible arguments in our household. She wont do chores but messes up frequently and has the nerve to tell us if we want it done do it ourselves. Shes so disrespectful that my husband had to take a break and spent several nights in a hotel to get away from her consistent nonsense. I was close to leaving as well the other day. Here's the latest argument. The other day she walked into my room and grabbed a fan we weren't using. I told her to put it back and buy her own to replace the fan she used to have in her room, which she broke. Oh and of course the fan she broke was one that I paid for. She was mad one day and threw something at it and that's how it broke. So when I told her to put the extra fan down she became loud as usual and disrespectful but eventually left my room. Later that day she text me from work informing me that she would be sleeping in the living room until she moves out. Shes supposed to be moving sooon, Hallelujah, but I let her know this wasn't an option. She came home from work and set up shop in the living room. When I saw her I told her to get her stuff and get out which prompted another argument in which she informed me she wont be leaving the living room since she doesn't have a fan in her room. Exhausted at this point and feeling sick to my stomach and head hurting, I retreated to my room. I had to get some rest before going to work that night.
The next day after I had rested, I revisited the same discussion/argument and tried to see why she wont buy another fan to replace the one she broke and oh yeah, why she wont pay me $50 as promised for the microwave she broke. The microwave was about a month ago, she decided to put a Wendy's chicken sandwich in there,which has foil wrapper and that was the end of it. She told me she would buy another microwave and I told her just to give me $50 to go toward one. Days later I purchased a stainless steel Frigidaire microwave which cost me $159. When I asked her for the money she said "you've already bought the microwave and it was an accident, if this were my brothers you wouldn't be asking them for money". I was livid, and she didn't care. Now we're arguing about the fan and the microwave and her not taking responsibility for anything she breaks or messes up. Her responses and reasoning are so twisted that I wonder what planet she came from. She threw in that she was 17 when she broke the fan and a minor so that's on me and also, if she didn't have the money I wouldn't be asking for it. I saw the argument was getting nowhere so I just left it alone.
This is a daily thing in our home, my husband and I are at our wits ends with her. She doesn't realize we've been the only ones in her corner and shes burned that bridge. Shes done a lot more but this is the latest. It's terrible to work, pay bills and not be able to enjoy your home but this is how we've been living. Yesterday I asked her to remove her tags she had taken off of her bikini from the back of the toilet and pick up the toilet tissue roll she had thrown onto the bathroom floor (after I had cleaned it). She responded by going into the bathroom and throwing the items into the hallway on the floor and left them there. I know there are other parents going through similar situations and those who aren't thank the Lord! I'm sure before the days end she will be doing something else to irritate me..stay tuned.. I can write a book on her alone..
For the past four years my daughter has been a thorn in my side. Shes defiant, disrespectful loud and obnoxious and follows no rules set for her. This of course has caused horrible arguments in our household. She wont do chores but messes up frequently and has the nerve to tell us if we want it done do it ourselves. Shes so disrespectful that my husband had to take a break and spent several nights in a hotel to get away from her consistent nonsense. I was close to leaving as well the other day. Here's the latest argument. The other day she walked into my room and grabbed a fan we weren't using. I told her to put it back and buy her own to replace the fan she used to have in her room, which she broke. Oh and of course the fan she broke was one that I paid for. She was mad one day and threw something at it and that's how it broke. So when I told her to put the extra fan down she became loud as usual and disrespectful but eventually left my room. Later that day she text me from work informing me that she would be sleeping in the living room until she moves out. Shes supposed to be moving sooon, Hallelujah, but I let her know this wasn't an option. She came home from work and set up shop in the living room. When I saw her I told her to get her stuff and get out which prompted another argument in which she informed me she wont be leaving the living room since she doesn't have a fan in her room. Exhausted at this point and feeling sick to my stomach and head hurting, I retreated to my room. I had to get some rest before going to work that night.
The next day after I had rested, I revisited the same discussion/argument and tried to see why she wont buy another fan to replace the one she broke and oh yeah, why she wont pay me $50 as promised for the microwave she broke. The microwave was about a month ago, she decided to put a Wendy's chicken sandwich in there,which has foil wrapper and that was the end of it. She told me she would buy another microwave and I told her just to give me $50 to go toward one. Days later I purchased a stainless steel Frigidaire microwave which cost me $159. When I asked her for the money she said "you've already bought the microwave and it was an accident, if this were my brothers you wouldn't be asking them for money". I was livid, and she didn't care. Now we're arguing about the fan and the microwave and her not taking responsibility for anything she breaks or messes up. Her responses and reasoning are so twisted that I wonder what planet she came from. She threw in that she was 17 when she broke the fan and a minor so that's on me and also, if she didn't have the money I wouldn't be asking for it. I saw the argument was getting nowhere so I just left it alone.
This is a daily thing in our home, my husband and I are at our wits ends with her. She doesn't realize we've been the only ones in her corner and shes burned that bridge. Shes done a lot more but this is the latest. It's terrible to work, pay bills and not be able to enjoy your home but this is how we've been living. Yesterday I asked her to remove her tags she had taken off of her bikini from the back of the toilet and pick up the toilet tissue roll she had thrown onto the bathroom floor (after I had cleaned it). She responded by going into the bathroom and throwing the items into the hallway on the floor and left them there. I know there are other parents going through similar situations and those who aren't thank the Lord! I'm sure before the days end she will be doing something else to irritate me..stay tuned.. I can write a book on her alone..
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